My going to strip clubs had two distinct phases.
The first was when I was a teenager at an all boys boarding in England (we used to say: "Better to have a sister in a whorehouse than a brother at an English boarding school"). The motivation was curiosity, desire to find sex (for the first time) - basically general horniness. Didn't do much to alliviate the problems, but sure spent a big part of my allowance.
As a grownup, I found myself at strip clubs in New Orleans and Las Vegas. Went because that is where my buddies wanted to go. Disappointing and expensive. Found that my girlfriends were open to anything (and more) that the strippers provided, plus my girlfriends liked my jokes. Bottom line, didn't get anything that I didn't get better at home. Also, I like my intimacy in private.
The friends who wanted to go, were typically the ones who were not happily married, or who (as far as could be determined from conversations) had sexual needs that their partners were not willing/able to meet.
Bottom line, for me a strip club is far more interesting in concept than in reality.
The first was when I was a teenager at an all boys boarding in England (we used to say: "Better to have a sister in a whorehouse than a brother at an English boarding school"). The motivation was curiosity, desire to find sex (for the first time) - basically general horniness. Didn't do much to alliviate the problems, but sure spent a big part of my allowance.
As a grownup, I found myself at strip clubs in New Orleans and Las Vegas. Went because that is where my buddies wanted to go. Disappointing and expensive. Found that my girlfriends were open to anything (and more) that the strippers provided, plus my girlfriends liked my jokes. Bottom line, didn't get anything that I didn't get better at home. Also, I like my intimacy in private.
The friends who wanted to go, were typically the ones who were not happily married, or who (as far as could be determined from conversations) had sexual needs that their partners were not willing/able to meet.
Bottom line, for me a strip club is far more interesting in concept than in reality.